seven chairs

greed — I need all of these chairs in the world.

envy — he has that chair. I want that chair.

lust — that chair feels so good. I need it.

sloth — all I want to do is laze in this chair.

pride — I have the best chair.

wrath — I’m going to fuck you up with this chair.

gluttony — I got fat. I need a bigger chair.

RE: How to Travel Well

I’ve been a little bit of a travel fiend lately and it has caught the attention of a few friends who often ask me, “How do you do it?” I don’t think there is an easy way to answer this. People have many different methods for travelling and I think they just need to figure out which one works for them and their own lifestyle. Start by asking yourself: How often do you want to travel? Where do you want to travel? Do you have any other travel goals? I think once you answer those questions, you will have an easier time working to achieve your travel dreams. Sometimes it’s just a matter of starting up a rainy day fund and other times it’s about revamping your entire lifestyle. While I can’t give you a step-by-step guide to achieve your travel dreams, what I can do is talk about what I do to maximize my own travel time. To give you an idea on my current travel situation, I’ve been travelling, on average, to two-three cities every month. Most of it is for work but I’m able to pepper in a lot of leisure time. I have struck a balance with work and play that I am pretty comfortable with. To have an idea of my own travel goals, here are my answers to the questions above: I want to travel all the time, as much as possible. If I had a choice to travel full-time, I would. Ideally, I would like a little less work and more free time for myself. My current minor goal is to visit every state in the United States. My major goal, my ultimate travel dream, is to visit all 195 countries of the world before I hit the ground. It’s a little eager but I’m working up to it as much as I can. I think it’s just a matter of making minor tweaks to upgrade my current lifestyle. While I’m working on that, these are the things that currently help me achieve my travels and how to best enjoy them too:

Having a job that allows me to travel.

I think the most important thing is having a job that allows you to travel. The two most important factors of your job here are money and time. In terms of money, it’s not so much about earning a lot; it’s more about using what you earn to travel in a way that suits your financial situation. If you would like to live a little more lavishly, you might just have to push a little bit harder to get that. My friends always ask me, “How do you afford to travel all the time?” My answer is always the same: “I work a lot”. I am fortunate enough to own a couple of small businesses which allow me to fly out and give me that scheduling flexibility but I am also always doing extra things to help me gain finances for travel. I sell things on Carousell and Ebay. I work a couple of part-time jobs including working at an antique shop. I try to save money on the things that matter less to me. Just how hard are you willing to compromise and work to travel?

In terms of time, your job has to complement travelling, either because it gives you the time to travel or because your job requires you to travel. Depending on how often you want to travel, the number of vacation days available and your earnings may be a roadblock to your plans. While some people are okay with the vacation days they are given, I understand many want to travel way more and there are only a few jobs that allow you to do that. Having your own biz definitely gives you that flexibility but there are other jobs that are out there that you just have to try applying for. I’m not going to teach you how to get that job. There are too many factors at play including your credentials, your capabilities, your limits and maybe a little bit of luck. My own suggestion is to look for shift work and jobs that allow you to work remotely.

If you really want to travel so much that you’re reconsidering your job, it might be time for your to evaluate what your priorities are. The strongest advice I can give is to strike a balance that you are comfortable and happy with. Finding the dream job for your dream travel is not easy but once you land it, the rest is a breeze.

Travelling with a friend.

While I very much like to travel solo, it doesn’t have many of the benefits of having a travel buddy (or buddies). Having a travel buddy means splitting costs on accommodations, sharing food to save stomach room to try more things, keeping each other on track, etc. Most of the time it simply means saving a lot of time and money.

You need to be a little choosey about your partner and make sure their priorities line up with yours. There are a lot of things you should figure out before a trip: What is their budget? Do they want to sleep in? Are they they have dietary restrictions? Can they do athletic activities? Can they swim? Do they want to do more touristy things or the more unpopular things? etc. The smallest factors make the biggest effect on the vibe of a trip.

I think it’s very important to choose a partner according to the place you’re going. Some things I’ve learned on the way, in the hard way. It’s a little tough eating out in Spain and Japan with a vegetarian. Hawaii’s a lot less fun if you’re going with someone who isn’t athletic and can’t swim. Smaller cities will be a drag if you’re with someone who doesn’t have an open mind.

I say take some time and figure out what you’d like to do in a city before going and then decide whether or not if would be better with a travel buddy. If so, discuss each other’s expectations, do some compromising and then go on and have a blast!

Discovering my travel style.

Once I really understood my travelling preferences, I had more direction and an easier time organizing my schedule on a trip. It takes a few times to get into a comfort zone but after some exposure, most people start to have a hang of how they’d like to travel. Due to my schedule and spur-of-the-moment-type personality, I’m not an avid planner and I like to do much of my planning while I’m actually on the trip. I really enjoying doing things as I develop a mood for them and don’t enjoy being pinned down for time. I know this doesn’t work for most people and that’s fair because everyone has their own travel style. Besides, I think it’s better not to follow my example and do a little bit of planning ahead of time. There are plenty of times that I lose out on a few things because it’s been fully booked, sold out, etc.

Each person just needs to find what’s comfortable for them. After figuring it out, it just makes travelling the more enjoyable. I encourage people to do things at their own pace and for people to stay true to themselves. It’s only when you travel with others that you might have to make some compromises. I’ll leave a little outline about how I organize my own trips at the end of this post for anyone who might need a general outline.

Getting good at packing. 

Learning how to pack is a valuable asset. Most of the time, lacking this skill won’t be the end-all to the trip but becoming a master packer will help save a lot of time, stress and money, especially in the cases that something was forgotten behind.

Here is my typical travel packing list:

for the flight

dress warm for the flight

passport

wallet

earphones/headphones

snacks

book/ipad/other form of entertainment

pen for customs for international flights

for the trip

phone + charger

external battery

currency of where you are travelling

extra cash for for conversions (ideally USD)

sunscreen

sunglasses

glasses/contacts

thin rain jacket

clothes including extra underwear + socks

PJs/lazy clothes

running shoes + sports gear + sports wear

at least one formal wear outfit + shoes

swimwear + flip flops

comfortable walking shoes

convenient bag to travel with

universal charger [international]

tissues/napkins [Asian countries]

extras

camera

computer + charger

painkillers + meds

jewelry

toiletries

toothbrush + toothpaste

shampoo

conditioner

soap

hairdryer

towel

razor

contact case + solution

skincare

nail clippers + tweezers if long trip

make-up

Of course, avoid overpacking. I’m quite a heavy packer myself so I suggest those like me to invest in a large sturdy luggage. The luggage I live by is the Dakine 110L Split Roller. I love them so much, I think I have a total of six of these babies. It’s at the maximum dimensions for check-in allowance but it’s super lightweight and it and can be collapsed flat when its storage space is not in use. Also, they have a limited lifetime warranty. I have made a warranty claim with them before and I can vouch that Dakine’s customer service is great.

Booking the best flights.

If I’m not using my flight points, I find that the cheapest flights are when flying in on Tuesday or Wednesday and then flying out on Tuesday or Wednesday. The best time to book, from my experience, is Tuesday during work hours. I always find it worthwhile to wait past the weekend until the weekday rolls around but only when booking weeks ahead of time. If you’re booking within a week or two, good luck. During high season (summer, holidays and long weekends), it’s inevitable that flight prices will be higher so I try to set my vacations during the low season months of September, October, February, and March.

Using a flight points card.

If you travel a lot, it’s foolish not to take advantage of a flight rewards program. The credit card that I am currently using is Aeroplan Infinite but I’ve recently been thinking of upgrading it to the Infinite Privilege. I can’t tell you which program you should get; each person needs to determine whether there is enough value to offset the initial costs. These programs are usually only worth it if you spend a lot and fly out a lot. All I can say is that you have to be smart about both acquiring and spending your points. For example, I’ve learned to use my credit card any opportunity I can. Depending on the program, some free flights are worth booking more than others. Just take some time to do some research and see what works best for you.

Adopting a travel attitude.

I respect that everyone has different personalities but it’s helpful to develop some characteristics that would be helpful for travel. If I had to pick three traits for solo travel, they’d be independence, caution and having an open mind. For groups, it would be flexibility, being considerate and again, having an open mind.

Also, travel smart and safe. When travelling it might be easy to get too comfortable when instead we should be prepared and be on guard. There are many dangers that we are simply not aware of when we’re out of home base. Scammers, thieves, the environment in general, etc. There are a lot more scummy people out there than you think so try to conform as best as you can and don’t make yourself a target.

Picking the perfect place to stay.

Obviously you’d like to book your accommodations well ahead of time. I personally like to stay in the city and somewhere near a river or a trail for my runs. I don’t have much else to say except that there are other options other than hotels such as airbnb or staying with a friend. And of course, if you’re paying for stay, you have to balance being closer to the city and quality of the place against spending more.

How I organize my trips

As I mentioned, everyone has their own travel style and maybe you haven’t discovered yours yet but here’s a little idea about how I organize my trips to help you figure that out.

planning// before the trip

Unless there is a major reason for going to the city I’m going to, I usually just star a bunch of the things I want to see on Google Maps and kind of create an efficient route to see everything in each area and then divide them over several days. If I’m having trouble finding things to check out or don’t get the chance to plan, I’m perfectly fine just strolling through the city. As I mentioned, I’m not an avid planner but I like to have an idea of what I’ll be doing before the day comes so I keep in mind the main things that I usually revolve my trip around:

>Try as many local foods and flavours. Maybe one luxurious meal, mostly high to mid-range dining and some casual dining and snacks.

>Cocktail bars!

>Go on a casual run or some other athletic activity.

>Do something nature-y, maybe a hike or go searching for animals.

>See some of the major touristy things.

>Walk in the different major neighbourhoods.

(Get nails done.)

(Meet up with friends in the area.)

I don’t religiously follow any sort of travel blog, magazine, etc. but I will occasionally jot down things that I would like to see in a city even if I have no current plan to visit there. For example, food is certainly very central to my travels so on my phone, under the “Notes” app, I have a different tab for every city where there is a specific kind of dish I want to try or a restaurant I want to check out. It might be a little excessive for some people but it’s nice to have a readily available list of places to check out if I’ve ever on a last-minute trip. I’m often flying Air Canada so when I’m in the plane, I love to jot down restaurants and must-see things from the Enroute magazines.

during the trip

I’m not too great at having a mental map of things before I see them so I usually have a phone in hand as I’m navigating through a city. Other than that, I don’t spend too much time on my phone because I like to take everything in, all the time. I don’t feel comfortable being without data so I usually will have a phone plan or have purchased a SIM card with a lot of GB.

I really love asking locals for suggestions. I end up discovering a lot of cool spots that I wouldn’t have been able to find on my own. I don’t go around asking strangers; I usually ask people working in the places that really impress me. For example, I will usually ask for suggestions for cocktail bars from the bartender if I’m at a cocktail bar I’m really enjoying, etc.

When I find places to eat, I depend heavily on Yelp, Google and suggestions from friends I trust. If it’s a larger city, I usually go about looking for local specialties or a specific cuisine if I feel like it. i.e. When I use Yelp in the States, I’ll type in “breakfast” or “American” instead of searching restaurants in the area in general.

I love shooting pictures on my trips and a professional camera has been too clunky for me so what I’ve been using is gear from Moment, who sell lenses that can be attached onto the camera of a mobile phone. It’s very easy and quick to set up and very lightweight too. I’ll be writing about some nifty things I like to carry with me on my travels within the next few blogs.

When I’m in an unfamiliar city, I usually like to follow crowds when I see them. When a lot of people are walking all towards the same direction, it usually means there is more to see in the area or they might be heading towards a specific event. I’ve discovered the flag raising ceremony in Beijing this way, discovered some pretty surprising restaurants in Tokyo and it generally leads me to the areas that I want to be in when I’m just aimlessly walking through a city.

I find that most of my friends don’t like doing this but what I really enjoy doing is eating on the go. It ends up saving a lot of time and it’s kind of like a meal with some live entertainment, haha. Keep in mind that this isn’t appropriate in all cities; in certain places like Japan and Singapore, walking while eating is frowned upon.

after the trip

I don’t usually have a lot of trouble with jet lag but on the off occasion that I do, I like to treat myself to some melatonin just as I’m going to bed to get my sleep cycle regulated.

I suggest leaving plenty of time, maybe a day of rest, before heading back to work.

That’s just about everything I can think at the top of my head in terms of prepping for travel. If there’s anything you’d like me to touch-up on or add, let me know, here. I love to help push my friends out of their nests and see them fly! In the meantime, be well and travel well!

RE: What makes me smile?

I’m sure this question is difficult for everyone. I’ve been feeling down the last couple of days but I’m going to give it a shot.

I don’t exactly know what it is but when I think about my highest peaks of happiness, it involves me interacting with wild animals. It’s a fleeting happiness; it’s extremely short-lived but I don’t think I can think of anything that makes me happier at a single moment. From taking pictures of them, to simply watching them do their thing, to getting as close as I possibly can to them and possibly touching them. Is that strange? I’ve been trying to link it to a childhood experience but the closest thing can think of is my Gr. 3 obsession with Pokemon and I’m pretty sure it’s not that. Even before then I was carrying around animal books and running around catching grasshoppers and lizards.

My two absolute happiness moments in my life were either catching frogs in Ubud, Bali or feeding pigeons in Plaça de Catalunya, Barcelona. For the Bali frogs, I remember having one in each hand, laughing hysterically in a dark pathway at night. I’m sure locals thought I was crazy and tourists thought I may have been a witch. I was even planning how many I could put in my knapsack to take back to my place (they had a beautiful outdoor shower + bathtub) but my good senses kicked in… and I only took two back. Of course, I let them go after watching them for a bit. For the Barcelona pigeons, I was so happy that I couldn’t help but cry when I had four, five pigeons eating for my hand at a time. I loved doing that so much, we went back and I fed them again on a separate occasion.

It’s kind of scary to think that perhaps no human can make me happier than an animal can. I don’t even understand this part of myself so I don’t expect others to understand it either. Don’t get me wrong; I know it’s bad. I know a lot of people who are really against all interaction with wildlife and I feel extremely guilty about it. I’m learning to better behave myself; you won’t catch me feeding bears or taking animals home anymore. I’ve been channeling my strange obsession to simply taking photographs and collecting skulls. It’s one of my longterm dreams to get a snazzy camera and shoot NatGeo-quality one day.

I think a more persisting kind of happiness and my biggest go-to is discovering and experiencing new things. I love seeing new places, eating new things, meeting new people and putting myself in situations that excite me in general. I think this goes hand-in-hand with learning about cultures which I also enjoy doing. I like to spend everyday doing something new. I don’t do it so much when I’m in Toronto although I do generally try to spend the night out and do something interesting on the weekends given the money and time. But when I’m out of town, believe me, I go full out. I think it’s pretty easy for me to find appreciation in all places, even those that deserve a little more love. Of course, there are only so many new things in this world and what I end up doing it chasing that high, spending a lot of money on flights, food and things in general. I want to eat as many different things (especially sweets, bring me all the sweets), see as much as I can, and have as many different conversations before I hit the ground.

I have accepted that I’m a materialist and I I love material things. I grew up in a low-income family and I spent a lot of my childhood wearing pre-owned clothing and using donated things from stores like Value Village (a thrift store here). I was often bullied for being poor and I am very much aware that those experiences might have left a psychological impact on me. I, myself, don’t like to see my possessions as a crutch; they bring joy to my life and things like apparel give me confidence and comfort that I need in my life. I’m sure the guys of The Minimalists would have a lot to say to me. When I come back from a trip, I seriously sit around my home and just bask in my stuff. Stuff upon stuff. I keep a lot of things that remind me of someone or of some occurrence in my life and reflecting on past experiences makes me happy. The grape drink medicine box from Tippling Club that was given to me still makes me smile. I don’t necessarily see it as an unhealthy habit. It by no means stops me from appreciating non-material values. In fact, I think wanting things makes me work harder and smarter to get those things and it just ends up keeping me on my toes. Some people are happier to have work less and have less stuff but I go right the other way. I will work a million times harder to get what I want. I guess you could call me a go-getter. I think part of the happiness comes from staying true to myself. I try not to deprive myself of the things that bring me joy and comfort.

Along with staying true to myself, I am obsessed with productivity. There’s something about getting things done or checking things off my to-do list that is just so fulfilling. It feels good. (There are dangers about this from a book I’m reading called Smarter, Faster, Better by Charles Duhigg) Maybe that’s why I’m running all the time. They say exercise produces endorphins, endorphins boost productivity. I think being productive is just a way of convincing myself that I am making good use of my time. Also, I like seeing myself get better at something. Who doesn’t?

I am definitely less dependent on people than the typical person. I don’t get lonely easily and I enjoy doing a lot of things on my own. However, I am really grateful for the friends I have. I seldom get to spend enough time with the people I like most either because I’m preoccupied with commitments or it’s a flight away and I often feel guilty for not investing more time on them. It doesn’t help that I don’t enjoy chatting via text or online. I think my closer friends have accepted and understood that part of me but sometimes I worry that people feel disconnected from me because I don’t keep touch in that way. I’m also afraid that some of my favourite people don’t even know how much I value them; I’m just simply too shy to tell them so and I don’t really know to express it. I miss my friends often but I seldom ever tell them. I’m going to put more effort into seeing friends after the end of the con season is over.

I’m at the end of this and I do have to say that writing about the things that make me happy makes me feel a lot better. Thanks. +we’ll leave the business endeavours for our top-secret discussions. owo